While on your quest to success you will encounter those attempting to make you feel small. Whether it’s a networking group, former colleague, or even family; there is always someone determined to make you feel like less of a person. Therefore, I … Continue reading →
When they say sexy what does it mean to you? Is it the beautiful body? Is it the shapely curve of the butt and the big breasts? What if we don’t have that super beautiful body and bombastic breasts? Can … Continue reading →
Due to tragic economic times, thousands of individuals have lost everything they own. Thereby forced to start over with nothing in the hopes of rebuilding a life. Though this will cause some to sink into a deep funk, it actually can … Continue reading →
Twenty-nine years of marriage seems like an eternity in the sub-world of Hollywood; an accomplishment in itself. Even with the rarity of this triumph, this is a victory indeed for Denzel and Pauletta Washington. With divorce rates high and steadily … Continue reading →
Remember when you would get dressed to the “T” to make heads turn on ladies night. What about doing your hair and make-up just right even if going out to the store because you never knew who would see you? … Continue reading →
On our quest to start new chapters in our lives, we can find ourselves surrounded by voices. These include individuals cheering us on, as well as those telling us not to move forward. When the desire to move forward is … Continue reading →
While on our journey’s to love and to be loved, we still must dedicate adequate time and attention to our career advancement. Afterall, our achievements in all realms of our lives help to improve our self esteem and confidence. But, … Continue reading →
We all have friends and family that seem to be in a carousel of reckless, dead-end relationships. Some of us are or have been trapped on a similar ride, feeling like there is no technician to let you off. As shown on TV Ones’s docu-series Love Addiction, these toxic situations are deep-seeded and can continuously tarnish our sense of self. But I object to the notion that this choice of lifestyle is a “love addiction”; instead it presents more so as a “pain addiction”.
Some individuals have been exposed to so many maladaptive chaotic situations that these situations become their comfort zone. It sounds ridiculous to suggest that chaos could be someones comfort zone, but why not when comfort is born out of familiarity? When we become accustomed to chaos, we are likely to recreate similar patterns with lovers, friends, and family members. This is PAIN ADDICTION.
BUT, you can break a pain addiction by acknowledging it as such and taking seemingly extreme measures to become accustomed to a healthier lifestyle. For example, If you constantly engage in relationships with people who are very brash and pretty much emotionally abusive; thrust yourself into a relationship with someone who constantly affirms you. It will be uncomfortable, but it will force you to confront underlying issues, such as negative self-image. The problem isn’t that there aren’t better available mates, it is that you’ve avoided better mates. You can get off the ride whenever you are truly ready to do so!
By Precious Avorkliyah
What do you think….Are some women addicted to the love or to the pain?
Every day we are bombarded with invasive ideas and images about how women can be found more desirable and irresistible. The media’s attempt to influence the way we think, act, and look is getting more and more overwhelming each day. … Continue reading →
“Keep your dreams alive. Understand to achieve anything requires faith and belief in yourself, vision, hard work, determination, and dedication. Remember all things are possible for those who believe.” ~Gail Devers Quote~ In today’s society it’s imperative individuals fully understand … Continue reading →